Self Worth

Self worth I believe is the foundation of a life fulfilled or a life that feels like the cup is only half full. It maybe also the main reason people seek help whether they realise it or not.

Evidence suggests from the moment of conception on, the growing fetus is affected by the emotional environment surrounding it (Bruce Lipton ‘The Biology of Belief’). The brain is either hard wired in a positive or negative way depending on whether we receive enough love and support with appropriate boundaries.

Medication is being prescribed to younger people now at an alarming rate for anxiety and other issues but the problem is it does not address the root cause of the issue and in fact creates more issues to deal with later.

Low self worth shows up in a myriad of ways and seems to include one or more feelings of:

• fundamentally flawed
• inadequate
• unlovable
• self doubting
• incompetent
• undeserving
• inferiority/superiority
• overly critical of oneself and others
• fear of criticism, authority and making mistakes
• perfectionism driven by the need of approval
• being a people pleaser/can’t say no
• fear of rejection and disapproval
• anxiety
• thinking negatively a lot
• finding social situations difficult

All of the above can lead to feelings of depression or anger (and all its tributaries e.g. frustration, irritation etc) turned inward as the needs of an individual fail to be met. Addressing the root cause of the issue of the issue will ensure lasting peace.

Lack of Self Worth can result in an inability to create Abundance in different areas of life:

• Health - making choices that show a lack of self respect and indulging in behaviour that inhibits good health.
• Relationships - people can sabotage relationships by misinterpreting communication.
• Wealth and finance - don't taking healthy risks and business relationships don't develop.
• Recreation - becoming a workaholic and not allowing time to live a balanced life, living a life of shoulds.

Because the conditioned perceptions of the self start at such a young age and are reinforced over and over the brain becomes hard wired to perceive ‘the world’ in a certain way. If someone has a low perception of self, self sabotage will show up in different areas of life as we only allow into our life what we feel we deserve at the unconscious level.

People with low self worth process information differently from people with high self worth, because of the feedback they continuously received during their developmental years. People believe the worst about themselves and can’t even hear the positive feedback from others as they ‘filter it out’.

Example:
A young child seeking love and approval from their mother and instead is met with criticism and nothing is ever good enough. No positive messages are put into the child and there is no demonstration of love (hugs and cuddles, positive words).
The child grows up to be a people pleaser desperate for approval and needy for it. This ultimately pushes people away and leaves the person feeling rejected, unable to trust, and with deep anger, sadness and resentment at not getting the love they desire in relationships. The original trauma is therefore able to influence the future as it branches off with influences of ever increasing complexity. Depression very easily follows.
Children who have been abused have learned that they are of no value and are not safe. Beliefs and corresponding feelings lead to behaviours that are self limiting or self harming.

The Good News

We can change and transform low self worth and turn it around with the use of EFT and ThetaHealing. This is because the tapping while talking has the effect of calming the part in the brain responsible for the fight or flight response. The body moves into fight or flight to varying degrees when it experiences the negative emotions associated with the distorted beliefs held as a result of early negative experiences.

This is a process and with patience and perseverance it can be done.

If you think of your life as a timeline and on that timeline sit all of the events that have shaped your perspective or view of yourself.

Attached to these events are pictures, emotions, thoughts and decisions you made about yourself, the world and other people. All of this information is stored within you even if you can’t consciously remember it. Your brilliant unconscious mind remembers everything you have ever experienced!

You are attracting what you feel worthy of having right now in your life. Your number one indicator of how healthy you will be and how long you will live is the level of your self worth. You can find your self worth through acceptance, love and forgiveness, firstly of self.

When your beliefs are bought into conscious awareness and changed, you become the architect of your own life, creating consciously through thought, feeling and action.

The way forward is love. First through accepting and loving yourself, and then taking it out into the world and allowing that love to touch the hearts of others you meet.

When we tap on the meridian points of the body while tuning into all of the different aspects of a specific negative event we can literally dissolve old feelings and beliefs and replace them with acceptance love and validation. This is how we reprogram the body/mind and literally create a new body and experience of life.